twenties series: [fourteen] goals

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everyone must have goals in life because goals are what drives us to improve every single day and what motivates us to strive for better. competition is often necessary because you get to see people around you and what is out there that is possible to strive towards. chances are someone out there is better than you and that’s when you realize all the room for potential growth and self improvement. a little competition amongst friends give you that extra boost and bring that competitive side out of you, but look no further because the point is to be better than yourself yesterday. wake up with determination and go to bed with satisfaction. no one is perfect, but every person have ever opportunity to make themselves a better and more well rounded person. for me personally, one of my biggest goal is to continue doing what i love and play the sports i can’t live without. with that being said, the biggest challenge for me is to stay healthy, minimize the injuries and get stronger. i want to continue to compete as much as i can and get as much competition exposure as possible before i call it quits. another goal is eating healthy and healthy clean. trying to regulate what i eat and get rid of the unnecessary junk out. feeling more determined than ever to set my goals and focus on achieving them every single day

twenties series: [thirteen] economize

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looking further ahead and thinking for long term is the smart thing to do now. its never a bad thing to start early and create a good habit to control monetary usage and handle cash flow with care. at a point where i should start thinking about investments, assets and things that would affect the markets. the last thing i need is to see my bank account balances dip slowly because of poor monetary management and unnecessary expenses. that means, controlling the frequency of eating out, holding back often temptations for online shopping and differentiating between wants and needs. its no secret i put much emphasis in my technology, my car, and my taekwondo gear. i like shopping and i love new things, who doesn’t? online shopping has made it so easy for me to make purchases, i could be spending way more than i would want to without realizing until i receive my credit card bill in the mail. for example, it doesn’t help that i have not used any phone model for more than two years, in fact, record shows i have had four phones in the past four years and three laptops within the past six years. recent investment in yet another uniform to add to my ever growing collection of taekwondo gear, but i swear this time is for a good cause

twenties series: [twelve] childhoodness

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the transition of growing up from stage to stage is not an easy one. being a kid was easy but we wouldn’t even realize it at that time. during the first decade, there’s no need to stress, no need to worry and every day passed by like it was the best day of our lives. went to school, played with friends, had some extracurricular activities and went home happy and carefree. stepping into the second decade was a tougher because we realize there are added responsibilities and the acknowledgement of what stress is. school gets busier, homework increases, extracurricular activities piles on, not to mention drama will occur, relationships becomes unclear and the need to start thinking about career path. entering the third decade of the life, formally known as adulthood, is the toughest yet. school gets tougher, every exam and paper is like a do or die situation, extracurricular activities continues, love life has its ups and downs, and you feel like your career is trapped in fog and there’s no turning back. there are those moments when nothing is going right, everything happens out of the unexpected and everyone seems to be against you and you think long and hard and question whether you made the right decisions five years ago. i now understand why people will occasionally go in the quarter life crisis. i don’t know what is in store for me the rest of this decade and the next ones to come, but i am set to make take the positives out of situations and make it the best possible experience

twenties series: [eleven] friends

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be conscious of who your true friends are in life because those will be there no matter the situation. cherish all of those people since they are who will make positive impact on your life and make you feel valuable and appreciated. on contrary, there are those who are self centered with ginormous egos who only think of themselves. it’s unfortunate this type of people will appear in life, but that’s when you make the judgement call to avoid prolonged relationships. no doubt getting used and taken advantage of is no fun but it’s something each person will learn to recognize and cope with. i personally have very hard feelings towards these friends with benefits people and is very unfortunate i met a few along the way. i am glad i am proactively taking the necessary action to rid these negative people in my life to reduce the amount of damage they leave behind. it’s coincidentally thanksgiving weekend, i am truly blessed with a good friends and people around me who accepts me with am open hand and likes me for who i am. i am grateful for all that i can give and all that’s given to me. i wish i could have taken more photos with you of all the moments we shared

twenties series: [ten] values

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i am a very stubborn individual, many people can justify that, but i am glad i am. i would never give up in what i believe in and would never give up what i love doing. what would life be without passion?? all i know is without passion, life is nothing but bland and worthless. no matter how many haters out there disapproving my decisions and love, sports is something i would not go without. people around me needs to compromise and understand what sports means to me in the grand scheme of things. i don’t know how many times i have said this, but if i have to give up and quit what i consider the most valuable things in life, what is the purpose of being alive?? i learn to set priorities and values straight and know that tennis, taekwondo, dodgeball, skiing are amongst all the activities i am addicted to. until i decide the time is right to taper down, i will pursue all that my heart desires; meaning i will continue to compete and aim at podium finishes at various competitions, hit tennis balls on the hardcourt without hesitation, play my game of dodgeball and shred the gnar with my skiing gear. and of course not to overlook that sports doesn’t make up my entire life. my family and friends are a great asset and a big part of my life for all unconditional love and support i receive from each and every one of them. special shoutouts to my parents because without them, there is no me, they gave me everything i have and got me to where i am now

twenties series: [nine] self improvement

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every person runs their own race at their own pace and only they can control their own destiny. there’s a definite start to the race in life, but indefinite finish line, so how is success measured?? knowing that we need to improve in one thing, but knowing how to make that improvement is another. everyone should be constantly evolving and changing in one form or another, the lack motivation to improve may have dangerous consequences because no one wants to be left behind in the dust. i want to be the person that sets my own limit and leads the pack, someone who others would want to catch up to and not be spending my time chasing the pack. its important to me to set goals and work hard to constantly take steps forward towards making that goal achievable. i am trying me best to take every opportunity to make the necessary adjustments in order to get better not for others, but for myself. work hard at what i believe is right and value and don’t look back to regret what i should have and could have done. because the knowledge i attain, the skills i acquire, the distinctions i receive are all things that i naturally should do feel proud of, not because someone said i should. the climb towards setting my standards and setting my own limit only gets steeper, and only when i reach a small peak is when there’s a little plateau to realize how far i have come. the ultimate goal is not about being the best, its about being better than you were yesterday and doing the best you can possibly achieve

twenties series: [eight] pace

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it may sound strange coming from a person whose life runs at the speed similar to the highway traffic where park zones do not exist. i am just at a point in my life where all my commitments and deadlines are happening all at once, and no matter how fast i push myself, i can never fit everything into a my twenty four hour span. i hate to say that all my commitments may not even fit even if i was granted an additional two hours each day. i drive a bmw with a relatively powerful engine, if i was given a race caliber car, it would be scary scene to see how fast my life moves at when i step on that gas pedal. in the past month, i have been running on a full load and tight schedule based on an average of five hours of sleep per night. its a miracle that i am still functioning after several weeks but i am uncertain how long i will be able to hold up. some things has got to change or i won’t be able to keep up with this hectic and crazy lifestyle. with that said, life is not a race to the finish line, learn to slow it down and pace yourself. you will be glad you did because there are many rewards at every stage of life and chances are you may miss it if you speed through everything

twenties series: [seven] drama

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throughout each of the schooling stages so far, i have met a lot of different people with unique characters. some people are born with the innate ability to be drama queens and drama kings. it is no uncommon when situations seen by different sides will result in different stories, that’s when they overreact and blow things out of proportion just to get other’s attention and seek support. i have been involved in a series of dramatic events in the past, none of which was worthwhile for the amount of time and energy put forth to resolving all that. i can’t really speak for others, maybe some people enjoy being in the middle of drama, but i personally would like to distant myself from all that. i learned that i like to stay away from drama as much as i can because it causes too much stress and takes a lot of time and effort. try to focus on what’s controllable and don’t waste my precious time stressing over what’s beyond my control. with the amount of stress i have in my daily life, the last thing i need is to add on more unnecessary stress. i find that the older i get, the less involved i want to be in these uncalled for situations. it’s just good to keep some things personal and keep life simple whenever possible because sometimes less is more. the only drama i like and is absolutely addicted to is hong kong tvb drama, otherwise, leave me out of it

twenties series: [six] forgive

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there are many challenges in life with all the ups and downs. it’s inevitable that we will cross paths with some people that you just can’t see eye to eye with. as i meet more and more people in all walks of life, i realize the importance to keep those who make a positive impact in my life. those who provide nothing but negativity and those only considered friends with benefits shouldn’t be kept around because they don’t matter. i noticed different stages of life will call for different circles of friends, some come and go but those who really matter will stick with me forever. from time to time, arguments may arise even with the whomever deemed important to you, but the main point is don’t let that get in the way of the relationship. it’s all about learning to forgive because who knows there may be times when you will also be hoping for forgiveness; in the end no one is perfect. just remember not to blow things out of propoertion, keep everything as simple as it can be because often, it is easier to forgive and move on than to hold a grudge long term. it may seem like a tall task in the heat of the moment, but once you look back, it is the logical thing to do. life is too short to always hold grudges and it’s never a good thing to put a valued friendship in jeopardy

twenties series: [five] technology

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some arguments were made that technology is altering people interaction and that we are losing the ability to communicate with face to face conversations. that may be true on some level, but can’t argue that technology is a powerful tool that has also brought us many conveniences like never before. sure, the increased gaming opportunities isn’t a good reflection but a little wouldn’t hurt. no one can argue being able to send a short message or quickly snap and send a picture through our mobile phones applications in a matter of seconds is not convenient, the simplicity to check in or tag your friends in photos to share, or the ability to retrieve an email the second it arrives is not efficient. let’s be realistic, who doesn’t own a computer or cellphone these days and who still uses land line as home phone?? the technological world is advancing so quickly, the fastest and most efficient way is to constantly be checking all sorts of platforms. i must admit i am a culprit of relying on technology everyday, every waking hour. i don’t see how that can be a bad thing because just by checking up on social media, it allows me to catch up on some friend news, gossip new and world news even if it means reading them off my facebook wall. i admit i am the person who would be swiping on my phone at the dinner table; but in my defense, being a busy person makes it is not all unncessary activity, but i am working on minimizing that. bottom line is i feel so lost and naked without my phone, i simply cannot live without technology and i don’t think its a bad thing